iDENTIFICATION CRISIS simply means a person losing d insight of what he originally is-& unconciously becoming someone whos actions have affected him in better or d worse case scenario..
The better part of it is what everyone is perhaps aware off-& dat doesnt concern me at all..its d worse case scenario-this is where "THE ABUSED BECOMES THE ABUSER EVEN IF THE ABUSED REALLY HATED D ABUSER FOR HIS ACTIONS IN HIS EARLY YEARS." this is a disease spreading in our society n its going on from generations-if a person is affected from someone close in a bad way- after a couple of years u will find d victim behaving exactly like someone he deeply disliked(a tennage child getting physically or mentally abused by father-exercises d very act he hated on his children!)..this is a defense phenomenon-so it works at a subconcious level n d person performing it isnt aware he is doing so..& the next very obvious question is-why does dis occur? this occurs cos d bad phase puts such a mark on d persons mind-dat he dsnt want to get abused again..he dsnt want to go through dat pain again-so he tries to dictate terms for others now-so dat others nevah get a chance to hurt him..what he probably fails to realise is dat he is creating another "ABUSED" in d process(the person whos d victim of his actions now)to carry his legacy ahead..
This is something dat needs to halt somewhere..why are we to make allowances for someone elses acts-We probably cant force people to change their convictions..cos dat wud be "character assassination"! Even if one might be successful to do dat ul land up wid a numb person-who will do exactly like u please-widout an element of being alive-is dat d purpose then?..Convictions r what make us-n dey r formed gradually over years..anybody trying to break those beliefs will only meet a stone wall- cos d other person gets defensive to protect d "I" dat exists inside..so how can we deal wid dis?- there is one change dat is honourable..justifiable..n in our complete power- the ability to change "ME"..d best i can do is not get affected by what anyone thinks or believes.
Life is a learning curve-n each has his own learning to do..we dont breathe for someone else..our heart exclusively beats for us-why do we have to be d mind for taking decisions for someone else then?-We cant be pushy for what we feel..dis way v r not just allowing d other persons defences to rest- but also giving him a chance to think about d scenario-in d most rational way.." Good things happen to good people!" is an illusion we need to come out of-Shit happens to d most noblest person too..d only difference is he realises dat he is much much larger than life-he would probably think-"So it happened-big deal-but seriously-"u bad phase"- u tried getting ur hold on a wrong person altogether-Im killing u here inside me right now..ur not allowed to use me as ur contagious agent to pass this viscious disease on to those unaffected-Sorry!"
